Why Feeling Understood Is Important For Your Wellbeing

It has been argued that one of the basic functions of human emotion is to create bonds with others. Feeling valued, appreciated, loved and understood, is a sign that our bonds with other people are intact and that our welfare matters. The sheer pleasure of hearing an “I love you” signifies the great value the brain places on our bonds.

I feel loved in bucketloads, but this week I’m not feeling particularly understood, by anyone. And so I tasked myself with writing my own manifesto. I very rarely sit to reflect on me. Just me. Most times it's done in brief moments as I’m making lunches for the next day, or when I'm in the shower before my privacy is highjacked by the rest of the family. So here’s what came of a bit of self-reflection today:

I’m in love with…

My most precious cargo; my children and my partner. Everything that matters to me now extends from our inner circle.

It is important to me…

That my boys love life - that their compassion, interests and inquiries take them to the corners of the world. That I raise children who find value in experiences and connections, over things.

I am trying…

To nourish my own growth. Setting goals to do new things and push myself to sense and respond to what the world has to offer, rather than trying to control what happens.

I want to do less of…

What doesn’t add value to my life. I promise I will practice this more and be honest with myself about what I really want to do.

I want to do more of…

What makes my body feel good. My health is important to me and I need to give myself more time to do the activities I want to do.

I cherish…

The friends and family that I can share my deepest, darkest and brightest feelings with. These people make me feel inspired and loved, and very very lucky.

I promise…

To give myself the pep talk I need when I’m feeling I’m not stacking up, because what I actually know, is that I am awesome at my job, at the projects I take up, being a mum and a partner. I need to worry a lot less. I promise to continue living gratefully and give where I can and find nourishment when I need it.  If I’m not understood, that’s OK, because at least I know myself.
 

Take a few minutes today and experiment with your own Manifesto!